Should I stay with my husband? He has cheated on me and I threatened to leave him, but now he is begging me for another chance…

Tony and I were married eight years ago. He came into my life when I was in an unhappy marriage with Con. He seemed new and different, he promised to make a new home for me and my family and run my business well (long-established, import-and-export). I believed him. I threw out Con, and moved in with Tony. Our first few years were all right. I was a little disappointed because Tony was sometimes slow in keeping his promises. He insisted that everything had to be done in a new way at home, but very often I found that nothing much had happened. But I was still happy and when Con asked me to go back to him I sent him away with a flea in his ear.

But not long afterwards things started to go badly wrong between me and Tony. He started cheating on me with an American called Georgie. She was crazy and violent. She treated him like dirt and she did not care what she was doing to us and our family. But Tony could not do enough for her. He was always flying off to see her and he would not listen to me – or our neighbours – when we tried to warn him against her.

Three years ago, without even telling me, Tony signed us up for a business venture of Georgie’s in the Middle East. I thought this venture was dangerous, even criminal, but Tony insisted. He told me lies about it. He even said that if we did not join in we could lose our home. He spent a lot of our money on it – he insisted  my son go out there and I have no idea when he is coming back. Meanwhile problems have been piling up at home.

I didn’t feel I could go on with Tony and I warned him. But he begged me to stay. He promised that he would spend more time at home and fix things. But he never said sorry, and he has not even promised to break with Georgie. I don’t know whether I can ever believe him again, about anything.

Meanwhile, my ex-husband Con has asked me back again. But he has not changed and I do not want to go back to the past. A nice man called Charlie has asked me out on dates, but I do not know much about him. I  rather fancy Tony’s Finance Director, Gordon, who has actually done more jobs around our home than Tony! But Gordon cannot seem to take a hint and he simply won’t make a move. Tony has threatened to shift him from Finance to OverseasDirector and send him out on the road, so | may never see him again.

There it is, Aggie. I don’t know what to do. If I stay with Tony, I am afraid he will walk all over me. But there is nobody else on offer. Sometimes I think I would be better off without a man at all!

Yours sincerely,

Brittania Jones (Mrs)

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